I am feeling guided today to comment on something that comes to mind whenever I hear people talk of "negative people" or "fearful people", something that I hear very frequently emerging from the new spirituality. It appears that negativity and fear have indeed become the new "new age" version of the old religions mortal sins ;-) lol...
I don't feel it is wise to divide the world into positive and negative people, circumstances etc... Which is what often happens as a result of adhering too rigidly to the many teachings that hold an excessive emphasis on the positive polarity of life. Having a positive attitude and thoughts of course helps, especially with manifestation, but manifesting is not all that the spiritual path is about. We are here to evolve. And sometimes how we do that is through learning how to create, but creating and manifesting is not the only nor the ultimate goal. Evolution of consciousness is, an evolution that is always about learning to hold more truth, wisdom and love. And within the process that leads to that evolution, we encounter the cyclical nature of growth, where we all hit pockets of grief, discouragement, fear and negativity at times. These, if properly honored and embraced, are the doorways through which we are called to dive into the inner world to do work, through which we find the forgotten wounds and tears and parts of ourselves that need support as they shift.
True healing of an evolving human cannot happen without occasionally diving at the bottom of the well for self reflection or release of the old. And teachings that do not honor the path of light that we travel in the shade, create people who are in denial of both their own and other people's pain and vulnerability. Which leads to a lack of compassion and a closed heart. And often also towards an "I am better than you" attitude, because, look, I am positive, look at me, I have no fear. This attitude polarizes and creates judgment and a decrease in compassion towards one's fellow human and even from oneself. Notice, ironically also, how much the ego is still in charge, when so invested on having it gotten right, by being so fearless and positive, whilst others are not ;-) lol ..one must chuckle at the sweet and very creative ego and the many wonderful ways it finds to keep holding on ;-) Much love to the sweet ego within us all, as it gradually learns to let go...
Lets remember that we are not here to separate from others, we are here to embrace our fellow humans (and all parts of ourselves of which they are a reflection), wherever they happen to be at...
Incidentally being able to sit with other people's so called negativity, unscathed, is a sign of true balance and ability to hold light. To walk through the darkest of dark, to be able to hold the deepest of dysfunction, and still feel balance in compassion and smile: this is the true open and evolved heart. It may take a while for us all to get there, but I know that the ability to stand still in love and emotional transparency to whatever another brings, in full allowing and compassion, is the true goal. And this compassion can only come from having embraced every aspect of self, so that there is not anything within or without that we may find unlovable or wrong.
As a general rule, people are just people, in different stages of healing. It is always wise to decide how much of our own personal energy we have to give out or to place. And it is wise to evaluate how permeable we are feeling in different times of our lives, in relationship to how much of the energies of others we can commune with. So nothing wrong with a bit of shielding and seclusion at times. But I feel it is better to do so making it clear to ourselves that this is about our personal need for solitude and cocooning, rather than about people out there being too negative or too fearful for our heightened sensitivity.
May we always find ways to take care of self in ways that are honoring to all. And may we evolve to the place where we can embrace all energies in the neutrality of a true and open compassionate heart. And may we be compassionate towards self on our way to getting there ;-)
May you walk in beauty
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