Energy Draining People as Boundary Teachers

We all have had the experience of being around people who drain our energy. As a general rule, energy draining people are not bad, they are often just sweet people doing their thing, a little unconsciously...but, especially if you deal with a lot of people, good boundaries become very important. With good boundaries we can deal with many people, but we get to set limits on our time and how much we choose to give.

Many "light-love-holders" and "healers" are very magnetic for people who do not have a direct inward connection to Source. Or for people who are going through stuff and are looking for healing and support to move upwards. There is nothing wrong with this, as especially young souls may take a while to find their own Source connection when in a body, but the "healers and love holders" need to be mindful of this phenomena, as if they allow for too much energy draining, they can become sick and tapped out.

Learning how much to give and to whom and when, is part of the growth lessons on the healer's path, as we learn that we cant be all things to all people, at all times. And of the ways in which we may mistake healing for taking on other people's stuff.

Energetic balance is one of the main reason for which healers charge for their services, because there is only so much time and energy that one can dedicate to anothers growth. Setting the space through which healing energy is extended is something difficult to measure, and yet it is a very real form of effort, that anybody that is a healer understands quite well. It is only fair that it be rewarded with equal exchange, so that the healer can then have the resources to rest, recharge, eat healthy food etc., which allow him or her to continue to be a good vehicle for healing energy while maintaining a good quality of life.

The people who do not charge for services are usually either independently wealthy, have a mate who pays their bills or...have poor boundaries and usually develop illness in the long run, due to depletion.  Remember therefore to always honor your fellow healers, as they sit with you and assist you in creating a place for your own growth and progress.And as a healer, remember to always honor yourself though whatever represents fair exchange for you, so that you do not become depleted.

Back to the energy draining people. When to draw the line. I find that the line needs to be drawn with the repeat offender boundary breakers, who do not take no for an answer. Usually these people have some degree of narcissistic personality, where they literally cannot hear you saying no. These people can become true energy vampires and sometimes, we literally have to limit their presence in our lives (if we want to keep some energy that is).

In general, however, most people who drain our energy will respond to good boundaries. People are often not mean, they are just unconscious and taking what they feel is available, due to our own unspoken messages about our own availability. Energy drainers are therefore good boundary teachers. They can give us great opportunities to learn to say no and to get clear about how much we choose to give, what is our responsibility and what is other people's; and the places where we are taking on the lessons that belong to others.We may have our own unconscious motivations to be a rescuer and helper, which can be our own way to feel better about ourselves, and looking at these areas of unconsciousness can also be useful.

If you find you attract tons of energy draining types into your life, make sure to check your self esteem and the unspoken rules  and psychic contracts by which you live your life (often learned in childhood from enmeshed parents or from past life agreements that are still ticking in the back of your psyche, such as old healer vows and oaths of service more appropriate to other times). You may have some old vows to let go of or some old beliefs and contracts that need updating to present time. You may have to learn that your energy is precious and that nobody has a right to your energy and time, without your consent. While you may choose to give some of your time and energy away, it is ok to say no or protect your energy, especially from those who regularly steal it ;-)

When not being zapped energetically, you will also find yourself to be more effective in the world, therefore becoming a more efficient helper for the community at large.

In general, spend a few minutes each day cutting energy cords, especially at the end of the day. And make sure to always call back your own energy, asking for it to be cleansed before it reunites your energy field. This little moment of mindfulness alone, done daily, can help in keep your energy field intact and balanced.

I hope this was useful :-)

Much love  x x

Katie

Soul Based Success

Success is not a straight line ;-) (thanks Roger Sylver for the picture ;-)). It is often a one step forward and two steps backwards deal, as we learn to master what we need to move forward.

It is also important to have a clear idea of what success is. Is success having lots of money in the bank and the approval of others and holding a top position in the world? For many that is the definition of success. However you can have your own Soul based definition of success.

Soul based success is about: making a contribution; being able to actualize one's Soul Mission; positively supporting others in growing; moving beyond patters and limitations; having what you need for your mission when you need it and having your needs met; learning to navigate the world without stress; the quotient of fulfillment and joy in ones heart; the level of activation of ones being and the degree of alignment to source. It is also the amount of love and forgiveness one can hold in ones heart. And the ability to hold healthy boundaries and a compassionate attitude at the same time. These are all definitions of soul based success and there are many more.

It is also useful to remember that there are also Soul Missions that rock the boat and do not get the approval of society and often even cause friends and family to judge or to walk away. Therefore our definition of success cannot be based on the thumbs up from others. In fact I suggest that the more evolved and soul based we are, and the more counterculture our mission, the more our definition of success need be an internal one, a feedback loop between Self and Creator, not based on externals. Letting go of measuring oneself against other people's standards is a very important step in becoming inner centered and for creating joy in one's life.

All that matters is that we are doing what you came here to do. If we are doing what we came here to do, we are successful. Even if the world does not sing our praises and our bank accounts are on the slim side, we can still be happy and fulfilled, if our needs are met, our heart is at peace and we are making your own unique contribution :-).

Think for a moment of what success means to you and you may find that you are already quite successful and you may also find that you get clearer about your true soul based goals.

Pat yourself on the back for your inner accomplishments, as this is another form of self love. And always have faith in your journey. As you make a difference. And the ripple effects are often unseen but plenty.

Wishing you all a great journey smelling the roses as you walk this path

Much love

Katie

Copyright 2012. Katie Gallanti, MS, MA. www.reclaimingthelight.com, http://cosmicperspectives.blogspot.com. All rights reserved. Share as a link to this blog with authors name and website links displayed.

Planetary Healing: Self Care, Female/Male Balance, Love

Copyright Francene Hart - http://www.francenehart.com

While much depression and illness is caused by trauma and unresolved issues, it is also the case that we live in a very nutritionally deficient and toxic world and our bodies literally often don't have the building blocks to produce the hormones and neurotransmitters required to stay balanced and healthy in body and mind. As such many are developing a host of  "syndromes" such as fibromialgia, chronic fatigue, hypothyroidism, adrenal fatigue, etc., which are often the sign of a gradual break down of body functions in an overloaded and deficient system, struggling to keep up.

Very much modern degenerative illnesses, they can be reversed with patience and time once we understand how to properly care for our bodies. A lesson in self care and self love, which is in itself a form of healing. For example, if there was childhood neglect, learning to care for the body and the self, can be a journey into re-parenting the self, which can be very valuable and rewarding, after the initial resistance.

Also many women now have a terrible time with perimenopause. I am convinced this is just another sign of the imbalances of our times. I have a friend who is super healthy, who entered menopause without one single perimenopause symptom and without one single hot flash. Some women instead suffer even as long as ten years in the periomenopausal stage, often because their system was already taxed before the beginning of hormonal changes. If the adrenals are fatigued they can literally crash with the additional strain of perimenopause, creating a nasty hormonal cascade, in which estrogen, progesterone and thyroid hormones go crazy. This can be very difficult to manage.

Women's bodies have a much more delicate hormonal make up than men's bodies, where even small imbalances can create big messes. This is because hormones regulate many aspects of being female. From cycles, to pregnancy, to menopause, a woman's life is punctuated by a delicate balance of hormones throughout most of her adult life. Stress and toxicity tax the liver and create problems with this delicate balance. Hence why many women feel this more in our present stress-filled toxicity laden world.

The degree of difficulty some women experience is no laughing matter, with suicide rates in women aged between 45 and 55 being the fastest rising suicide category at present. Chronic pain, chronic fatigue, hormonally induced mood disorders and the financial stresses  incurred when not well enough to function can take its toll.

Extending therefore here some compassion to all women on the planet going through these kinds of difficulties. This is a healing blog post, in which I am feeling guided to ask Spirit and my healing councils to extend healing to all women on the planet who are suffering in silence (or screaming loudly ;-)) as they work through healing imbalances and changes. Asking for a planetary healing of all women's endocrine systems, detox organs, and bodies  and minds. Visualizing full and perfect health and balance for every woman who is open to receiving healing, a healing to the degree that is for each woman's highest good. Also asking that new knowledge and information be made available so that we all, male and female, can return to balance easily and effortlessly in a more natural world.

Asking also for a download of  this information as well as new energetic patterns for health, well-being and self love on the planetary grids. May this information  and healing templates be readily available for all who seek it. Visualizing rapid  and full healing available on the grids for all :-) Visualizing men and women balanced in spirit and mind. And visualizing love and compassion aplenty, for self and between males and females.In balance, may we experience the beauty of one another, in harmonious co-operation and blossoming.

And I also visualize the end of surface ideals of beauty and obsolete standards that belong to the old world. Seeing the old templates based on externals dissolve, so that the beauty of the Soul may shine through. May we channel and see the beauty even through the wrinkles and the imperfections. And may we value and honor all polarities. I feel a particular resurgence of the male in its role as protector of all that is alive and beautiful and even fragile, rather than in the old standards of providers of cash and material possessions. Visualizing a world in which all thrive in their more spirit aligned roles. Where the male energy holds a space for the female energy which blossoms in its care, both filling out into their true shades of beauty and power. A power fulled only by love.

And as the duality between male and female polarity heals, so does the duality of our world, as new generations born in love, create love. As new generations born in the honor of beauty, create and honor and respect life. And in this new honor, the world regenerates, as life thrives when we stop harming it, with even just a tiny bit of encouragement. As healing is the natural state that all gravitates to when held in a space of love.

Wishing you a great Saturday

Katie


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Staying Clear and Connected

If we are very energetically connected, we can sometimes feel emotions that are not our own. This morning for example I woke up feeling very depressed. The feeling was very heavy and out of proportion to where I am at. I decided to do some clearing work on myself and I received guidance that the feeling was not mine, but belonged to another person who I have been speaking to lately. I asked how much of what I was feeling was not mine and I got 85%. I also received that I was processing their karma for them. I cleared both and the feeling of depression instantly lifted. It was like night and day and immediate.

This kind of thing can happen when we are bonded to another, like a spouse, close friend, parent or child. Or when we have been energetically corded, as can happen with clients and even FB friends. Or when our aura is porous, due to a weak aura boundary or holes in the energy field. And even simply because we are a strong empath.

I also believe that as we raise in vibration and become in general more energetically "in tune", we are also becoming more telepathic.The boundary between the "I" and the "We" is less strong as we remember the oneness of our extended group soul. But until we are all squeaky clean, we still need to make sure that we are merging energies in ways that are beneficial.

If you find that you are overloaded and feeling more than feels right, it can be a good idea to cut cords and ask Spirit to clear any energy that is not yours from your field, as well as any psychic contracts you have that bind you to carrying or processing energy for others. Even as healers, it is wise to help people process, rather than carry the energy load for them. Carrying people's load can burn you out and takes away the person's opportunity for growth. The same is true for family, significant others and friends.

In general it is good practice to clear your energy field often. Just like it is good practice to have a shower and brush teeth to keep the body clean, it is good practice to cut cords and clear one's field to keep one's energy field in good shape. Energetically we live in a big soup filled with thought-forms, astral beings, collective energy, the energies of people we interact with, ET energies, solar energies and even many man made forms of energy. It makes sense to engage in some basic maintenance to keep our energy field clear and sealed, so we can be centered in our own being and essence.

It is also good practice to regularly connect with the Source energy and the energy of our Higher Self, as they are the higher dimensional energy fuel for the incarnation. It is easy to get bogged down with Earth life to a degree that we can begin to forget how high we can soar. Instead of lifting people up, as many came here to do, we then become part of the density. Connecting with the Source energy automatically lifts us up, energizes us and gives us a clearer perspective. It also fills our tank with love. Love for self and love for others, as at the higher levels of our being, love is all there is.

When you feel energetically depleted, imagine linking upward from your crown to Source. Then imagine the gold light of source filling every cell, atom and energetic space withing your being. Stay in this energy for as long as you can and allow for your being receive it. You can do this before you go to bed and allow for it to continue while you sleep. You may find that you wake up well rested and in a good space, with a clearer vision of your life and purpose :-)

Wishing you a fabulous day

Katie

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